Have you met my man?
This is the two of us this past year on Memorial Day. Dean is the best husband and friend. He’s a great father and a huge support to me and what I want to do. He keeps me going when the going gets tough. The other day, as I was thinking about how much he does for me, I realized that I hadn’t introduced him or shared our story with you yet.
Dean is the best husband and friend I could ask for. He’s a great father and a huge support to me and what I do. He keeps me going when the going gets tough. The other day, as I was thinking about how much he does for me, I realized that I hadn’t introduced him or shared our story with you yet.
The other day, as I was thinking about how much he does for me, I realized that I hadn’t introduced him or shared our story with you yet. Seeing how he’s one of the main reasons this blog exists, I figured it was about time I introduced him to you. He’s great. At least I think so, and I think that you will too!
Meet The Love Of My Life… Our Story
Dean and I have a long history together, as you’re about to see, so below, I’ve created a timeline of the major happenings in our relationship over the years to make it easier for you to see how our relationship has progressed. I’ll also try to briefly describe each of the events on the timeline to give you some more back story if you want to read it. No pressure, though. There’s only a quiz at the end. J/K. 😉
We first met in the 8th grade. Dean’s family (parents & 8 brothers and sisters) had just moved here from Pennsylvania. We slowly got to know each other as friends over the year, but as the end of the year got closer, I learned that I wouldn’t see him in high school because he and his siblings would be home-schooled. Bummer… he was a really nice guy… a bit different from a lot of the other guys I knew.
My best friend kept inviting me to a new Christian hangout in our town called “The Coffeehouse”. I finally said I’d go mainly because a lot of my friends from church already went and because she said Dean was there. It had been 3 1/2 years since I’d seen him, but I was interested in reconnecting with him as I remembered him fondly from Middle School. The coffeehouse turned out to be great. It was just what I needed. Once my dad had checked the place out and okayed me to continue going on a regular basis, Dean & I got to know each other better over a period of months. Our relationship grew as we grew spiritually and served others. He wasn’t the typical guy I would like, but I think that’s what drew me to him.
During the initial months at the coffeehouse, I started going to church at Dean’s church after mine let out. Yes… they had LONG services, but I got to know his parents and siblings a bit better. The summer of our Junior year of high school (4 months after meeting again) his brother Preston and I went off to our local college to participate in a summer program called HCOP to learn more about health professions. We were gone all summer, but we’d ride home together on the weekends. We got to know each other better during that time which I suppose was a great way for Dean’s parents to see what I was really like away from them and Dean. At the end of the summer, Dean’s parents gave him their blessing to make our relationship official (date, court, whatever you want to call it) and get to know each other better. We were “officially” an item and pursuing a relationship that may lead to something more than friendship.
Senior Year of High School
Over the course of our last year of high school – me in public school and he being home-schooled – we grew our relationship and it became apparent to both of us that we wanted to marry each other… someday. My dad was adamant that I go to college and not marry until I’d graduated. A huge bummer for me because I’d of married Dean right out of high school and skipped college altogether, but it was important to my parents that I go so I did it. Plus… Dean was very respectful of my parents (and his parents) wishes. So we went to prom together and graduated together (sort of) and I got ready to head off to college an hour away. In the meantime, he and his dad were starting their own business and so he would be skipping college and going straight to work for his dad.
Two years of college went by. I decided I wanted to be a nurse. Business was going great for Dean and his dad. I would come home during the week to go to The Coffeehouse as well as come home every weekend to spend time with my family and his family. It was during that time that my dad decided it would be okay if I started going to church with Dean which was a miracle in my opinion! Now we got to be together even more! Dean would also come down once a week to take me out on a date. Life was good, but I was sick of school and ready to marry my man! Oy!
The summer of my 2nd year of college, Dean’s brother Preston & I decided to work for a local Children’s Camp that our church supported as a way to make some extra money. After that summer, I went back for my 3rd year of school which was busy, busy, busy! Finally, summer came around again, and Dean proposed to me. That’s a completely different romantic story, and there’s no way I could sum it up quickly. I went back to work at camp that summer, engaged, and excited about planning my wedding!
Graduation & A Wedding
Woo-hoo! Senior year of college went by quickly. I had a job lined up for when I graduated working at our small town ER, and Dean’s parent’s were building us a house on their property so we could live close to their business. All was coming together as planned, but I was STRESSED! I would graduate in May, get married in June, and take my boards to be licensed as a RN in July. There were lots of big things happening and I had a stress ulcer. Needless to say, time went on… all went off smoothly and beautifully. We got married (finally), Dean took me on a surprise honeymoon (another long story), I took my big test and passed, we moved into our house, and I started work as an RN.
Babies, Babies, & More Babies
We originally wanted to wait for 5 years before starting a family. We wanted to have sufficient time to be together, just us, before the responsibility of being a parent came. But… 5 years turned to 3 years and that turned to 1 year. We both were excited about having a baby and we just couldn’t wait any longer. After our 1 year anniversary, we started trying. 3 months later I was pregnant and everyone was so excited! In May of 2008 Judah Scott arrived, followed by Anthony Isaiah in February 2010, Uriah James in December 2011, and Ezrah Daniel in April 2014.
A New Home
This last year, we bought our first house. Don’t get me wrong… I love where we live. I’m sure I’m going to be a big crying mess when we actually move, but it’s time for us to have our own place with more land and space for our boys to grow. We’ve got a lot of work to do on the place, but the plan is to move in this summer or fall. We’ll see. Right now the snow is making it difficult to get a lot done.
That’s All For Now
So that’s it. That’s our relationship summed up with a lot of things left out. I’ll have to fill you all in over time. All I know is that I’ve been so blessed to have met and married a man like Dean. We’ve been married for 6 years, and every year is sweeter than the last. I have to say we’ve had a pretty easy marriage. We’ve both learned a lot about each other, but it’s been a fun journey. I’m looking forward to getting old and gray with my man!